You must read this link to understand this blog.
I believe wholeheartedly in parental involvement. I have seen it to many times to ignore it. Two kids same or similar skill set the one whose parents are involved will succeed. That being said how much involvement is to much particularly in the realm of school. Let’s all agree that parental involvement in Elementary and Middle school is of primary importance. Let’s even grant that some involvement in 9th grade is acceptable. How much involvement should exist for Juniors and Seniors? Let’s focus on those who are in AP classes at this point. Is there a point when parents begin to “baby” their children? I have a wonderful daughter one I speak about often I am sure if things stay the same she is on track to be a pre-AP and AP student in no small part because her mom and I spend time with her at home reading and encouraging learning. We also are both room parents and are involved in PTA. My daughter is in Kindergarten and so she sees us taking school seriously so she takes it seriously. At some point however do we become a hindrance to her performance or worse still maybe detrimental to her school career because we become too involved?
Reading through that story it is obvious that teachers who once held a position of honor and respect in our society no longer do so. Parents do have had to many experiences with poor teachers to see past the bad apples and so they throw the baby out with the bath water (to mix some metaphors). Has the ship sailed on parents and teachers ever being able to trust one another and work together as a team to improve the life of a child? See ultimately kids need both but at what point should teachers be allowed to teach and parents be expected to parent? Is there crossover between those two roles? I guess what struck me most about the above article was the bitterness. It seems that parents (certain) parents will always side with their kid, even when common sense and sound logic say they shouldn’t. I am father I love my daughter and because I love my daughter I need to be willing to see when she is wrong and when she is lying and when in fact she has done something to harm her own intellectual growth. My parents loved me more then I deserved often times, but the thing is they never failed to side with a teacher if in fact there was “just cause” to do so. I case this is what it comes down to. I think “just cause” has changed. I think during my childhood “just cause” was any easier sell for teachers. Now I would be hard pressed to convince a parent their child is wrong. Why?
For me this isn’t just a school problem. We are creating a bunch of ninnies. Our society has fundamentally shifted and it is a scary shift if we don’t do something about it. After you graduate from high school and go to college will you only attend a school that fits nicely into your perceived ideas and expectations? And if that school/college varies in anyway from your perceived notions will you bail out citing the college as being at fault? What happens when you get a job? Will you only stay employed with someone as long as they only tell you the good things about your performance? While avoiding any critique of you job performance because they would get a phone call from you parents berating them for having the you know what to critic their child? This shift in societal attitudes towards teachers is the first step in what will become an epidemic if we are not careful. Already there are a growing number of people in the job market who feel entitled and are offended that managers and bosses would critique their performances. Look parents are the primary agent of socialization in our lives. However teachers, employers, colleges all play vital roles as well. And as a parent we need to love our children enough to sometimes let them fail.